Hey Reader, A lot of men who read this are exhausted. Some are coasting, others are numb. Many are collecting insights and hoping one finally makes a dent. Experience tells me that a good bit of them feel like they’re doing everything right, but still stuck with a life that doesn’t feel like their own. If that’s where you are, I get it. I spent a long time there too, living in flat-out hopelessness. I couldn’t imagine things changing, and I had more than a little anxiety that I might die...
5 days ago • 4 min read
Hey Reader, I wrote a new blog post that I'd love to share with you. “I’m Unhappy With the Sex in My Marriage” — How to Stop Waiting, Take Back Your Power, and Become the Man She Can’t Ignore Published on July 29, 2025 If you’ve ever found yourself Googling “sexless marriage help” or “why am I unhappy with my wife” at 2 a.m., you’re not alone. Brother, that sentence you keep repeating — “I’m unhappy with the sex in my marriage” — isn’t one problem, it’s three: happiness, sex, and marriage......
25 days ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, I actually love meeting new people.I’m curious. I listen well. I ask good questions.And most of the time, I can hold my own in just about any conversation. But there's one moment at every gathering that often makes me pause. It’s when someone leans in and casually asks,“So… what do you do?” Now, I can answer that question.And I do answer it.But often, I can’t help but wonder what it’s like for the person asking, someone who is probably expecting a clean, polite reply like:...
about 2 months ago • 5 min read
Hey Reader, If you’ve been doing the work—calming your reactivity, leading yourself, tending the emotional fire in your home—but still find your wife cold, guarded, or withdrawn… You’re not alone. This might be one of the most discouraging places a man can land. It’s where you start to wonder: “What’s the point?”“Do I have to be perfect to be loved?”“Will anything ever change?” I just wrote something for men like you.Not to give you a 5-step formula.Not to tell you to try harder.But to help...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, I want to share something with you that’s been decades in the making. For most of my life, I carried a deep ache—a hunger I couldn’t name but also couldn’t escape. It showed up in childhood crushes, romantic fantasies, emotional intensity, and a constant low-level sense that something… or someone… was missing. It took me years to realize the ache wasn’t about a woman.Not about the one I married.Not the ones I admired.Not even the ones I secretly fantasized about in my lowest...
4 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, I’ve been hearing from women for years—quietly, consistently—asking for something that didn’t exist yet. Some are women doing the emotional heavy lifting in a relationship where their partner still doesn’t “get it.”Others are women whose partners are trying—maybe even working with me—but they’re still uncertain, cautious, or just carrying a lot on their own. What they’ve all shared in common is this: They’re tired of feeling like the only one doing the work.They want to stay...
5 months ago • 1 min read
Hey Reader, For years, Craig believed what most of us have been taught: If I work harder, provide more, and push through… eventually, she’ll see how much I love her. So he bulldozed his way through life—building a house, growing a business, staying busy, doing everything right. But underneath the effort was a silent desperation. He was exhausted. Resentful. Alone. And no matter how much he did, it never seemed to be enough. His wife felt it. His kids felt it. He felt it. And when everything...
5 months ago • 2 min read
Hey Reader, One of the men in our community recently asked where Masterful Men stands in the whole "Alpha/Beta/Sigma" conversation. It got me thinking—this comes up now and again... maybe it's worth saying more publicly. So, I added a new piece to the website… and I wanted to share it with you here as well. There’s no shortage of opinions these days about what kind of man you should be. Alpha. Beta. Sigma. High value. Stoic. Dangerous. Unavailable but attractive.Assertive, but not aggressive....
5 months ago • 3 min read
Hey Reader, You’re highly capable—a man who can solve complex problems, lead teams, execute under pressure, and optimize just about anything. But when it comes to your relationships, your emotions, or figuring out what the hell is actually going on inside you? That’s where the confusion hits. You’ve spent your whole life figuring things out—mastering skills, solving problems, making things work. So why can’t you figure yourself out? Why does it feel like the more you achieve, the more...
5 months ago • 1 min read